The difference between how men and women think about dating
But somewhere in between the passing of a decade, something changed. I became independent, confident, and started to value my self-worth. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person.
I went through hardships and heartbreaks and picked myself back up which built my strength and courage. And as a woman, you are attracted to very different things than you are as a girl. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life.
I was drawn to what psychotherapist, Ken Page terms as “attractions of deprivation” – when we are drawn to people who embody the worst emotional characteristics of our parents.
Basically, the theory explains that we are attracted to people who can wound us the same way we were wounded in our childhood, as our psyche tries to recreate the past void and save us by changing its ending.
And it is true that the injuries suffered by female domestic violence victims tend to be more serious than those suffered by male victims, and that the abuses inflicted by men are likely to be more frequent and severe. This pertains to "Myth #2." The author cited studies for male and female COLLEGE STUDENTS. In college, earning potential for both men and women is low, so the ability of men to provide resources isn't taken into consideration. There is a great 2005 book, Sex Lies And Stereotypes Challenging Views Of Women, Men and Relationships by social and cognitive British psychologist Dr. He too shows plenty of great important research studies done over decades by many different psychologists that finds small average sex differences,and the sexes are much more similar than different.
It’s destructive to base decisions about your relationships on gender stereotypes. It isn't until AFTER college that women start focusing on a man's resources. Scroll down to "How many messages a man gets by age and income". He also thoroughly demonstrates that gender roles,gender myths and gender stereotypes which are mostly socially and culturally constructed,harm both sexes because they are very liming,cause conflicts and misunderstands between women and men,and only allow each of them to become half of a person which can cause mental and physical conditions and diseases.
Or, read this post on “The 11 Differences Between Dating a Girl vs a Woman“.
If you are a girl (lack independence, are ruled by insecurity, lack self-respect, throw tantrums, have princess syndrome, don’t have strong values or boundaries and can’t hold yourself on your own) then expect that you will attract only boys.
You could say I was addicted to the bad boy/ unavailable boy/ player.
However, if you are a woman (independent, ambitious, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a man.
And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.
Some are flat out wrong, but even if there is a kernel of truth to them, they tend to exaggerate that truth, and are not constructive in dealing with the unique individuals with whom we have relationships. Therefore, in college women treat physical attractiveness as a higher priority. OKCupid found that college-aged men who are low earners can still do fairly well with women. Pink Brain, Blue Brain Claims of sex differences fall apart.
However, after graduation women don't appear to want anything to do with low-earning men. By *Sharon Begley | NEWSWEEK Published Sep 3, 2009 From the magazine issue dated Sep 14, 2009 Among certain parents, it is an article of faith not only that they should treat their sons and daughters alike, but also that they do.
There is, in fact, a great deal of and avoids the debate. And Delusions of Gender How Our Minds Society and Neurosexism Create Differences by Australian neuro scientist Cordelia Fine also thoroughly debunks common myths of gender