Problems with dating a divorced man
The dating and relationship advice that I tried to find online wasn’t very helpful–for my situation anyway.
There were very few resources out there that spoke to the specific experiences or challenges that I was going through as a woman in a pre-committed (dating but exclusive) relationship with a divorced dad.
If more men understood the emotions that come with divorce they would give themselves permission to experience them, and would also understand that they are temporary and can occur off and on for a year, they would be better able to cope with the financial problems after divorce.
Let's do a review of the grief process in stages: *Denial: a feeling of unreality, shock and numbness.
Our society is not very supportive of men and anger.
We condition little boys to "be a little man", fathers call their boys "little men" which discourages them from expressing anger.
The most important thing you can do is to get support for yourself from friends, family and other divorced men.
If men can recognize that and allow themselves to feel angry when it comes up, they will be doing themselves and their children a favor.If you are a divorced man having these problems, check with your mortgage lender if you own a home.If not, check with a community services agency in your county for help with rent and food assistance.Each relationship is its own living, breathing civilization.Many articles on the internet make broad generalizations about why you should or shouldn’t date a divorced man.
Many men are too proud to ask for help but they don't need to be. You can also petition the court for a reduction in child support.