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With too much baggage to contemplate a serious relationship, he was just the thing, I thought, to kill time between now and my trip. And yet I knew I wasn’t the anomaly, given that the divorce rate among 25- to 29-year-olds is twice that of the average across all age groups, and concentrated mostly in the early years of marriage (between three and five years).
In any case, I thought, what’s the big deal about dating a dad? With all the will in the world, you can’t give – or receive – the unconditional love that a parent can.
But I make it to the park after almost turning back, to find James* (my boyfriend) clutching a Pokémon rucksack and an armful of coat, from which a pair of huge eyes and a half-smile appear.
I wave awkwardly at this tiny yet enormously significant human being – all gangly limbs and pretending to be a dinosaur. I have no idea how I got here, but in this moment I realise that life as I know it is about to change.
But I ended up feeling like a frustrated outsider.’ Charlotte and Evan split after five years.
‘Selfish as it sounds, I just didn’t want to share him,’ she explains.
But that doesn’t mean you’re not sat anxiously at home sending ‘how did he do? ‘My boyfriend Evan made it clear from the start that I would always come second to his daughter Lola, and that I wasn’t to tell her off – even when she was rude to me in my own home,’ admits my friend Charlotte, 33, who has her own experience of dating a dad.Or we’d be on our way to pick him up and she’d call to announce a change of plan.Tom would be crushed with disappointment.’ James’ boy is six now, and I’ve known him for more than half his life.I cancelled that trip to South America weeks before I was due to leave.Why go to the other side of the world for an adventure? Me, James, his boy and a small dragon who goes by the name of Spyro, lined up on the sofa and watching Return of the Jedi. Things to know before dating a dad By Wednesday Martin, author of 1.
When I first met James, I was riding an epic wave of self-indulgence: living in London, working as a journalist for a fashion magazine, travelling the world working on stories, interviewing celebrities, rolling from party to party.