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The mix of laissez-faire attitude and unabashed attention can be baffling for an American more used to the game of Do You Like Me? It’s like you skip courtship and go directly to coupledom shortly after exchanging texts.When I showed up for my date with Marcel, for example, part of me thought he might actually have a bouquet of flowers with him — that’s how over-the-top Romeo he’d seemed.Now, let me be clear: Marcel was a handsome man and it sure felt tingly to be touched.But he was also overconfident and had nothing interesting to say (nor much interest in what I had to say), which made his not-so-subtle moves a bit of a turnoff. “They’re just in love immediately,” says Amy, 41, a long-time New Yorker now living in Paris.There’s this idea that everyone’s all free-love in France, that everything isn’t treated like it’s a big ordeal, so everyone is more romantic (and intimate) without the hangups. Love is definitely a happy and open subject in France.Most of the time it’s the result of friendships, trust, respect and desire.
While many Americans come to Paris because of love, I came, in part, for the possibility of finding it.
In New York, where I’d lived before moving to Paris, kissy faces were reserved for further along in the relationship — you know, like post-marriage.
If in New York you play hard to get, sparking chemistry through coyness, here in Paris, a second date at his house for dinner is par for the course.
French guy: “A car yellow.” American guy: “A yellow car.”What about how they ask a girl out?
A Frenchie will not “ask you out.” Or if he did, you two would just be together side.
In NYC, however, it feels like a difficult and heavy topic.