Advice for dating a jewish man
Let the woman use her “feminine charm”; it’s her legitimate prerogative, a healthy manifestation of her femininity.
It’s quite one thing to be charmed by it, but don’t be taken in don’t let it blind you; don’t fall for it.
Before marriage, however, physical contact has the effect of forging bonds without sincere commitment.
[Therefore, objectivity is distorted, and the essential relationship becomes confused…are we really headed towards commitment?
Also, once the principle of ‘no contact’ has been violated, there are often no other barriers effective enough in helping two people to restrain themselves from further kinds of involvement that could lead naturally to a intimacy.
It is precisely this point that we are attempting to make.Just prior to her marriage ceremony she removes the nidah status, in accordance with Jewish law, by immersing herself in the waters of a mikveh (a body of water used only for spiritual sanctification), and may then be approached by her husband.As a married woman she becomes nidah once again with each onset of a menstrual period, and marital relations must then be suspended until she immerses herself, once more, in a mikveh, at least one week after the completion of each menstrual period.All this is a matter of decency, honesty and fairness to yourself, to the other person involved, and to your family and Jewish tradition.It is a pre-condition of authentic and lasting love.
It will be acknowledged, even by those unaware of this law, that the sense of touch in male-female relationships often constitutes a type of borderline where simple association begins to pass from the area of friendship into the area of intimacy.